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It’s Okay to Cry

10 Aug

Since I’ve come back from Italy, I’ve been trying desperately to catch up on my life. Tonight, I hit a stalemate and had to give in to all the facts. Between graduating in a few months, my roommate’s new dog and mine not getting along, trying to find a job for after graduation and just plain being a kid trying to finish school, I think I need to pause and breathe.

I don’t want to write a post that’s meant to be a personal venting session, I want to be helpful. I think that if I talk this out, I’ll be able to eventually sleep tonight and hopefully help you when you’re feeling overwhelmed.The fact is that life today moves too fast and all the while not fast enough. In the meantime, there are a few things that are key to remember when going through a difficult and confusing time.

Stress Relief Kit

1. First and foremost, it is Okay to Cry.

In fact, it’s sometimes the best thing you can do. Yes, men, you can cry too. Crying is a physical form of releasing tension, anger, fear, etc. Sometimes it just feels good to let go and get it all out of your system.

2. Breathe… In… and Out.

There is a reason that mothers are taught how to breathe during child birth. When you feel stressed, take a deep long breath, slowly exhale, and repeat. When you’re huffing and puffing your way through a stressful situation, remind yourself to breathe and you will feel the difference.

3. Do Something

I am finding that sitting here just writing this post is literally lowering my heart rate. My mind is on another subject and it’s focusing on something constructive. For you, whether this means taking a walk, going for a run, cleaning, or starting a blog of your own, just do something else.

4. Remember, You are Loved

You may be overwhelmed, but it won’t last forever. Think of all those who love you and force yourself to see the bigger picture. No matter what you are going through, love is always greater than any negative emotion.

5. Pray, Talk, or Say it Out Loud

I texted my mom, my best friend, tonight with a list of all my worries. It’s after midnight and she texted me back reminding me of all the good in my life and that “this too shall pass”. Sharing your thoughts will make it feel less like your individual problem and help you see the situation from another perspective.

Through the course of writing this post, I’ve performed each of these steps and I’ve got to say, I feel a lot calmer. I am by no means certified to guarantee that this process will work each time, however, I am a poor, stressed out, typical college kid with more on my plate than ever before.

I promise to sum up my trip soon, but in the mean time, take a deep breathe, and enjoy.